The world of body modification where all people, from all places, and all beliefs come together and make a community. Since I have grown up, into this culture I am very understanding of a lot of things in the world. So I always find it hard when people just don't get things about my lifestyle.
At A Glance Author foryourmalice Contact foryourmalice@bme.anon IAM foryourmalice When A month ago I find parents and authority figures see it all as a sense of rebellion. That has never been the case for me. I don't care what parents think of me, I am polite, friendly, considerate, but yet when a parent or authority figure meets me, all they see is my piercings. I am considered a Bad person, but my personality plays no part in that judgement. I have always thought it was an amazing thing, different races, different faiths, different ages... all join in one aspect. There is a huge level of respect and understanding.
They think I am just trying to rebel but in actuality Im just finding a place to belong. A place where I am happy with who I am. Where is the rebellion in that?
My experience does have a point to it, so don't worry.
I decided that as a young person who is avidly into ritual modification, I needed to approach my father about it all. I wanted him to understand that its alright. So one night when I was putting up a poster in my room, he came in to say goodnight and I told him to sit down.
We sat down and simply talked about it all.
I finally told him the truth about the lip sewing that I had done a few nights before. He seemed very hurt.(I understand that my saftey was put at risk,and I told him I was sorry about not telling him) I explained why it was done, and what I got from it all. (keep in mind, my father is a 54 year old Spanish guy...This is a new world to him) I talked to him about how important it is to me. Im not trying to rebel against the world.
We talked and talked for about an hour, he sat and listened to all the words I had to say.
I explained how I could never fully make him get it but this was my sense of belonging.
This was my belief and my way of life. I told him, that I am young and that one day maybe I will change but for now this is me. I will never regret anything I do to my body because even if I do change, I'll always look back at it knowing I was happy at the time.
My dad kind of sat there in a bit of shock not knowing what to say. I finally stopped realising I had lost him, and just looked at him. I finally told him "Dad... This is me, and Im sorry if you hate that. But its important to me that you are proud of me no matter what. I am not trying to rebel. Im trying to accept you into this with me. I want you to be apart of this journey With me". As I looked at him, I think he finally did understand. Not why body modification, or why a lip sewing. He understood I needed him to be there.
So we hugged and he went to bed. We will always have problems seeing I am only 14 so he will set boundaries at some points. But I think he finally is proud of me, and understand Im not like all the other kids. I will always have an odd perception on life, he's starting to get how important this is to me.
So when I do get another lip sewing done, He will be there with me and I'll know he loves me and is proud. Hes going to meet the piercer in a few weeks to talk about the lip sewing. I hope with all my heart, this experiance can happen and I can finally finish my lip sewing. Emotionally its soo important to me, and I need my dad there with me. I hope it all works out because I dont want to lose my closeness with my dad. We have finally communicated. I tell him everything going on in my life. Now he knows the last part...He knows who I truly am.
Body modification has always been a huge thing for me, now its something that will bring me and my dad closer together.
Im sorry for the long rant, but thank you for reading..this was a great thing for me, and Im lucky to have a parent that is this understanding, when I know it does disturb him. I love my dad a lot, and I hope he knows how happy this is making me.
-For your malice