Until about a year ago I thought that genital piercings were the most pointless piercings out there. I've been into piercing for many years now but I haven't got many piercings myself. My mother always told me that it's better to own few very good things rather than many average things. So I've lived by that sentence almost always in my life – when choosing my friends, buying clothes and even when choosing piercings. So I've kept it simple actually and made sure that the piercings I was going to get were good and that I really wanted them and wouldn't take out the ring after a few months just because I felt that the piercing wasn't appealing to me anymore; so I've got a tongue piercing and a nostril piercing. But I never even considered a genital piercing.
At A Glance Author Mad Contact Mad@bme.anon When Three months ago Artist selfdone Studio at my home Location Tallinn, Estonia But then I don't know what caused it but one day when looking pictures of many different piercings in bmezine.com I started looking at female genital piercings pictures (I don't have a membership so I looked at the free tour pictures in the extreme section). I didn't even want a piercing down there but I was just curious. So one night at a party after having a bit too much to drink I started telling my friends that I wanted a genital piercing. Everyone told me that they hurt like hell and that they could ruin my sex life forever (funny, I believed them although none of them had ANY experience with genital piercings, I wonder if any of them had even seen pictures of the piercings). The bad part about it was that my boyfriend also heard about it the same night and I think he was disappointed because I hadn't told him I was even considering it (we have a very honest relationship) and it does affect him too (since he is my sex partner). So the next morning my friends tried to talk me out of it and I said I wouldn't do it. So I forgot the idea for about six months...
Well to be honest I never really said a final "NO" to the idea. I kept on visiting bmezine.com and I started reading some experiences about different female genital piercings. And by April this year I had decided that I want to get a genital piercing. I told that to my boyfriend too (this time I was sober and I was more serious) and he was skeptical and asked me if I had thought it trough enough. But I wasn't too serious at the time since I wasn't sure exactly what piercing I wanted. So I kept on reading and looking the pictures for another month.
It was around middle of the May when I finally decided one day that the inner labia piercing was what I wanted. So I told my boyfriend that I wanted it and he said that it was OK with him if I got that piercing. He didn't want to see the pictures but just wanted me to describe the procedure and the aftercare to him so that he would know what I was getting myself into. I know that he didn't fully accept my decision but on the other hand he knew that it was my body after all and that he can't stop me.
So first of the problems was where to get it done. I live in Estonia which is a small country in northeast Europe and we don't have many piercings studios here. So I looked up on the internet all the studios I could find but I couldn't find anything about genital piercings. NOTHING! So I started asking my friends if they know any piercers who would do the procedure. A girl gave me email address of a guy who knows the same piercer who pierced my tongue so I talked to the guy on the MSN messenger and told asked him to find out whether the piercer would do it. Finally he told me that he would probably do it but it was going to cost me more than a regular piercing (but I assume that he didn't have any training for genital piercings). The guy told me that he does piercings himself too and that he would pierce me for a VERY good price. But when I started talking to him I realized that he doesn't know much about female anatomy and the more I talked to him, the more I was certain I would NEVER even let him see me without my pants on.
So I read a few experiences on bmezine.com that some women had pierced their own inner labia and I started thinking about doing it myself. I looked up as much as I could about doing it myself and when I told my boyfriend that there were no one out there to pierce me, he suggested I do it myself (he has done all his piercings himself and he has pierced few of his friends; he also pierced my nostril). So I was glad there were no problems about that part and no arguing and he even agreed to come and supervise me during the piercing process so that he could help me if I would need any help.
Can't pierce myself if I haven't got anything to pierce myself with. So there's another problem – where to get the supplies? It would have been weird if I went to the pharmacy and asked for a big needle and some antibacterial cleaning lotion (they would probably think that I wanted to use it to do drugs since there's quite a serious drug problem in my country). And besides I tried to buy a needle for my brother (for other purposes which are not important at the moment) from the pharmacy once and they said that pharmacy doesn't sell needles at all. But then I remembered a friend who had mentioned that his mother worked as a nurse at a hospital. So I asked him if he could get me a needle and he did it in exchange for my boyfriend piercing his lip. So now everything was in order. GREAT!
Finally the day had come. I met my friend on Friday May 21st 2004 afternoon with my boyfriend. He gave me my needle (it seemed HUGE to me at the time) and he had one needle for himself and also one extra in case something went wrong (you never know what might happen). So we hanged out for a while and my boyfriend had few beers and the friend drank some non-bubbling alcohol (don't remember what it was exactly) and soon we would go to my boyfriends place to pierce the friend. In front of my boyfriend's house he told me that he was a bit drunk and that he would not come over to my place after he finished with our friend and told me he would come and help me the next day. I was quite upset with him since he had promised to come and help me. So I went home and decided to go through with the piercing just to upset him (I now understand how childish and stupid it was but well... too late to think about it now!).
The time was about 10pm and I was getting ready to do it. I had a needle and I had chosen just pure vodka to clean the needle and ring and also I had some tea tree oil. So I just sat in my room and I was preparing myself psychologically. At 10.30pm I went to the bathroom and took a shower. I made sure that no one wanted to use the bathroom for a long time so I could do it in peace and without being afraid that someone would need to use the bathroom. So I took a long warm shower and listened to the Marilyn Manson's Mechanical Animals album (we have a cd player in our bathroom so we could listen to it while taking a bath or take a shower) and I chose the song called Speed of Pain (just purely for the title and it also just happens to be one of my favorite songs from the artist) to play when I would pierce myself. I disinfected the needle and ring and I was ready...
So I sat on the floor (I laid some paper tissues all over the floor because I was afraid I would bleed all over the bathroom) and took the needle and ring there next to me. I had chosen to pierce just one labia. I know that usually both labias are done but I just thought I wanted one. I don't like the way the two piercings look like (if there are 3 rings or more, then it looks nicer but I don't like just one pair) and I don't like symmetrical piercings. Also one of my inner labias is bigger than the other so I thought a pair wouldn't look nice on me. So now I was sitting on the floor and I took the needle and I compared it to the ring to make sure that the needle wasn't too small and I wouldn't have any trouble getting the ring through the hole after taking out the needle. Well and another problem occurred – IT WAS too small. I never really thought of it until that moment but I thought that since the tissue there is quite easy to stretch I would still give it a go, I could always stop.
So I took the needle and I started pushing it through my inner labia. And it didn't really go through easily. It didn't hurt much but it was uncomfortable. I think the needle was too dry and so was the skin so that was the problem. Probably I should have dipped the needle into the vodka or tea tree oil again before pushing it through my inner labia. Well anyway too late for that since the needle was halfway through and then I got it through all the way. I just sat there for few minutes staring at the needle through my inner labia. Then I took it out and wanted to insert the ring to the hole. Well and more problems occurred... first of all I couldn't find the hole since it didn't bleed much but when I did I had trouble getting the ring into the hole. It hurt a lot and I spent a long time just getting the ring inside the hole. Then after that I couldn't get the ring out from the other end and it hurt so much I almost started to cry. I tried taking it out and inserting it from the other side and again I just couldn't get it out.
I got really angry and thought I would give up and try again the next day with my boyfriend. But then I remembered that I was angry at my boyfriend so I refused to give up. I was determined I would do it even if id had to pierce it again at another spot. But then after trying for a looooong time, ABRAKADABRA! The ring was through the hole and I was happy. It just happened. And quite easily but after trying for a long time I had probably ruined all the tissues in my inner labia and it was really painful and I bled quite a lot but it stopped as soon as I got the ring through the hole.
But I couldn't get the ball on the ring. I tried for a while and then I decided to let my boyfriend put it back the next day when I was supposed to meet him again. So I just left it like that and to be honest I felt better like that that I probably would have felt with the ball on. Because without the ball the ring was lighter and didn't put that much pressure on the piercing. And because the hole was quite tightly around the ring I want afraid that it would fall out. I cleaned everything in the bathroom and went to my room.
I was so proud of myself for doing it myself. I was really happy. I felt a bit dizzy but I thought it might have been because I had been my head down all the time and then I was standing straight. I never felt like I was going to faint or anything but I just felt funny. I went to bed wearing a long T-shirt and slept quite well, waking up after every hour just to check that the ring is still in place.
The next morning the piercing was quite sore and it hurt to walk fast and to sit in a certain position. I tried to move around as little as possible and after getting myself some breakfast from the kitchen I spent most of my day behind my desk playing computer games. I took a salt soak in the morning and then cleaned it few times a day with tea tree oil. I didn't wear underwear all weekend and by Monday the piercing wasn't that painful anymore.
It healed in a week and a half and my boyfriend likes it too. I didn't want to have sex for about 3 weeks, just to make sure it was fully healed and that nothing would happen to it. Sometimes at night when I'm ready to go to bed and I'm not wearing any pants or underwear my boyfriend likes to play with it. I think he really likes it now. And I'm really happy for not getting a pair of rings there. I've been thinking about getting a second inner labia piercing, but I would get it right next to the ring I have there now. But this time I'm certainly getting it done by a professional, or at least someone else with proper needles (I have found out by now that there is a place right here in my home town where women can get their genitals pierced by a professional piercer). No extra pleasure from the piercing when having sex but I just like the way it looks. So I would recommend it for anyone who want a piercing there but who are beginners in that area. I've had the ring for two months and I absolutely love it just for having it there.