With this ring...

At A Glance Author Hairman/Tat2grrl Contact hairman@sk.sympatico.ca Artist Adam Studio Dansing Dragon Location Mississauga

My girlfriend and I have been together now for 2 years. She was heavily tattooed when I met her; I myself had 1 tattoo at the time. Almost all aspects of Body Modification has interested me since I was a young teenager, but I never thought I would have any of the extreme Body Mod's done to myself.

We explored the various types of Piercing and other Body Mods on the Internet, specifically BME.

The time came that I wanted to intensify our relationship, but due to prior experiences, neither one of us wanted to get married, as we felt it was an institution.

"Tat2grrl" had her navel, and both Nipples pierced through the course of our relationship. I had always wanted some kind of piercing, but I was waiting until I knew for sure what kind I had wanted to be my first. I had never even had my ear pierced.

One night, we were discussing our bond together, and how we could bond on a higher level, without marriage. It came to me, that if we both went in for a piercing, we could each have "Rings" even if it wasn't the traditional kind.

Our next step was to set up a consultation with the Piercing artist, and discuss our plans. I had always admired men who had their penis pierced, and thought the Prince Albert was the "King" of all piercings.

When I discussed getting a P.A done, "Tat2grrrl" decided on hers. She was set on a Clitoral piercing.

After consulting with Adam, it was decided I would get a 10 gauge Prince Albert, with a snake eye screw ball, and "Tat2grrrl", due to a few reasons, would have to settle on a 14 gauge clitoral hood piercing with the same snake eye screw ball.

About a week later, we were told the jewelry was in, and that we could set up an appointment. Our 2 year anniversary was only 2 weeks away, So we set the date.

I'd be lying if I said I wasn't nervous. I had seen the instruments that would be used, and under normal circumstances I would not have allowed them near my genitals. Adams thorough description of the procedure and healing process did nothing to curb my apprehension. I was also excited, because I had always dreamed of having a Prince Albert, and I thought that this would have so much meaning, and would only strengthen the bond between the two of us. "Tat2grrrl" never told me of any reservations she had, but she had known other people with Clitoral hood piercings, and had her nipples pierced previously by the same Piercing artist.

The day had come. We had a special evening appointment, made because of the circumstances surrounding our dual piercings. We rented a nice Motel, complete with hot tub (The last time I wanted to do this for a while), Fireplace, music, candles and Supper.

Now here I am at the shop. I had so many different emotions running through me, I had wondered if I should have spent as much money on the supper I had just eaten.

"Tat2grrrl", the endorphin junky that she is, had no problem going first. Adam was great, and let us bring in some good music, our favorite incense and candles. As I watched her get prepared, I sat down, with water in hand. Adam was explaining what he was doing the whole time (Didn't do much for my courage at this point). As soon as it had started, it was done, and the jewelry was in. I felt a feeling of relief and panic all at once. She had hers completed; now it was my turn.

Is a 10 gauge needle ever big! I was wondering if I should have been brave and gone for the 10, or started out smaller, and worked my way up. The Jewelry was here, and it was our night, So there I was.

I don't remember all the details, only the total calm that came over me as soon as Adam prepared to carry out what was to be the most special thing I have ever done in my life. I'm not sure that I even felt any pain as the hole was being made, and the Jewelry placed. I remember looking down, at this massive ring, where there was no ring before. Then I looked at "Tat2grrrl" and she was smiling. I was pretty pale at this point, and remember feeling numb, similar to the feeling you get after a Tattoo, but more intense than I can write in words.

We went home, talked and cuddled, and fell deeply asleep for what seemed like an eternity. When I awoke however, the calm feelings had left, and I knew that I had a heavy piece of metal attached to me. I never remembered Adams advice about that "morning pee", and "Tat2grrrl" was awakened by some noise coming from the washroom. She reminded me how she would have no trouble at this task, due to the nature of placement between myself and her.

We jumped in the shower, and I didn't mind it at all. "Tat2grrrl" on the other hand, found that she did receive some added "sensation" in the shower, which I did not think looked very fun at all.

We both took up going "Cosmo". Trading underwear and jeans for plain old Sweat pants. This only lasted for a few days, surprising enough, and only after a week, she felt totally healed. It took me approximately 2 weeks to feel totally back to normal.

Now, we are both reminded of the bond we share together, on a daily basis. When we make love, it is readily apparent that we did enhance our relationship on that day. It is a constant reminder of our love for one another and I will never regret it as long as I have lived.

A couple interesting things to note.

I haven't used a urinal since the piercing.

Mesh underwear sucks, and I now prefer boxers to briefs.

Some of my "tough" guy friends are really very squeamish at heart (funny story by the way).

I know what it is like to feel like a teenager again, and the piercing has brought more pleasure to me than I had expected, and "Tat2grrrl" talks highly of hers as well.

Since the first piercing, I have gotten a Lebret, and am working on Full sleeves, while we contemplate what we are going to do for our next anniversary.

I hope you read this story in the context that it was meant. This is a very intimate and personal thing we have done, that replaces marriage for both of us. Neither of us felt pressured into getting our rings, and we both felt it was a pleasurable experience to look back on.

When people ask us about our future, and marriage, I do not always divulge this information. I have found some people are not understanding when it comes to Genital Piercing. Some people have surprised me by being really understanding (My mother), yet other times I'm surprised to see that some in the Tattoo community think that this is going to far, and are a little snobby when it comes to piercing in general.

I find it ironic; that some Tattoo parlors resort to piercing to pick up slack financially yet condemns the procedures that pay their bills in times that the Tattoo clients are not in abundance.