This week marks the third anniversary of the end of my marriage and I wanted to do something remarkable to celebrate the fact that I finally feel healed and ready to get on with my life. After 18 years of marriage and a lot of heartache since I knew that what ever I did it would have to be for me and would have to be out of the ordinary.
At A Glance Author anonymous Contact anonymous@bme.anon When A week ago Artist Len Studio Expert Body Piercing Location Windsor After much thought I started to focus on a body mod. My daughter is into tattoos and has five smaller ones already and is always talking about them and watching Miami Ink on TV etc. Also, most of her friends are into that scene and have various amounts of art on them. While I didn't think that a tattoo was the right fit for me at this point in my life (but I'm still thinking about it) I started to notice their piercings. As I started to talk to them about the different locations, jewelry, and reasons for getting pierced it clicked for me. I wanted to get pierced and the only thing I had to work out was the location.
As a business professional I knew I could not show up one day with my eyebrow or ear pierced and continue to be taken seriously. We have had a couple of other managers do things like this and while nobody really "says" anything they soon find themselves missing out on promotions, larger projects or high profile activities. Sad but true – you have to fit in to get ahead. After doing quite a bit of research on piercing I found myself going back to stories and pictures of genital piercing.
I had a hard time deciding on whether to get a frenum or hafada but I felt that one of these two would be right for me. I'm intrigued by apadravya or ampallang or even a dydoe but this was the first time I have ever been pierced and I was very nervous about the pain and healing. I finally decided on a frenum just below the head and all I had to do next was find a shop and do it.
After calling around and getting a feel for some people as well as asking my daughters friends some general questions I decided on Expert Body Piercing. They have a shop attached to their house and once I arrived it confirmed my choice. It is a very relaxing environment and I felt very open about asking all my questions (and I had a lot of questions).
We looked at a lot of jewelry options and I settled on a bar. We then talked about the different bar sizes and bead options. I didn't know there were that many things to think about. Threaded bead, threaded bar; small bead, large bead; surgical steel, titanium, coloured beads etc. After I picked a 10 gauge steel bar with larger beads we talked about placement, care and the actual procedure.
Everything was open and done in front of me and that gave me a real sense of comfort because I was worried about getting an infection. I had a mental image of me in my doctors office showing her the infection and having to get it removed – I mean – I'm 45 and you would expect that to happen to someone much younger. After everything was ready I got on his chair (I had expected a bed like a doctor but the chair worked just fine). Actually, the chair was like a barber chair and I was able to get very comfortable and he just sat on a stool and took charge. We marked the spots for the piercing and agreed on the location because I really wanted this in straight and had a very clear idea of where I wanted the bar. Out come the clamps and before I knew it he was done - very little pain.
I had an overwhelming rush and this must happen to most people because as I was putting my pants back on I was talking a mile a minute and he was watching me with this little smile on his face. I don't know if it's because of the piercing or the relief of it being over (because, as I've mentioned, I was pretty nervous) or some of both but it was incredible. I was riding that wave for a couple of hours.
I can say that I totally get it now. I had always looked at pierced people and wondered what the hell they were thinking. Now that I have one of my own I get the feeling of empowerment that comes with doing this. It's funny but I am a changed person and I am looking at so many things in my life with a new perspective. I'm going to have to watch myself because I want to tell everyone that I have it but I don't think many people would understand. Just this week I was in a meeting and someone was going on and on and on and on and I just wanted to stand up and say, "shut up – you want to talk about something? How about the bar in my cock?"... that would not go over well but it made me smile.
It's been just about a week now and I have not had any issues and the entire process (from thinking about it to last Monday night when I got it done) has been one of the highlights of my life. I feel like I have an inner strength now that I had lost over the years. I'm rejuvenated and ready for whatever comes next for me.