I suppose I've always had a bit of a weird thing with pain, kind of a love hate thing... Don't get me wrong, I'm not the kind of dude who spends his spare time pushing pins into his nail beds, but I suppose I've got a bit of a fascination with my pain threshold... I used to pierce my ears when I was a kid in school with a compass, I never put anything in them just did it in class when I was bored, I've only now started to associate this with my love of body mods, probably because it took me so long to get into them...
At A Glance Author BadBenjy Contact BadBenjy@bme.anon When A year ago Artist Paul Studio DV8 Location Penzance, England My piercings proper started with my tongue, 23 in the navy and getting my tongue pierced, I was mega scared at first, seems strange now, it was just the fear of not knowing what it felt like. I went to (in my opinion) the only professional piercer in Cornwall, DV8 in Penzance. I don't really remember much, just the rush before like I could run a mile, then the feeling after of 'that didn't fuk*n hurt' as that warm feeling fell over me. It was more like pushing your finger though a clenched fist, you could tell where it was but no real pain...
It took a year+ till my next one but in that time I'd fallen in love with my tongue, it just made me feel more like me... I had my labret done on a whim, a support piercing for a mate who was having her belly done. Even tho it was hard to keep with me in the forces I still kept it, using homemade plastic stubs to keep it open. Even now find it a really visually satisfying piercing and now that girl and I have lost contact its a reminder of good times and a really good friend... Now I had the bug but me being me wanted something a little out of the norm I next set sights on my tongue web, again at DV8, painless and quick to heal a brilliant piercing...
My most resent piercing was just under a year ago, I split up from my wife and guess I needed to do something for me. There was also a feeling that if I was going to make the most of my life things had to change, I had to push myself. She had always hated the idea of genital piercings so I never had one done. Flicking through BME they had always appealed to me, and I had planned a self pierced frenum ladder but never really placed any time scale on it. But now with the support of my girlfriend we both booked into DV8. She was having her clit hood done and I wanted an Apadravya, a slightly rarer piercing that some consider dangerous. I found out that it was in fact VERY old, even being mentioned in the karma sutra. I also read about it's sexual practicality and all in all it seemed to be right for me and also for my girlfriend. Paul at dv8 had never done one before so when I asked over the phone he said no. Knowing that many places don't do it I was disappointed but understanding. I still wanted to find a willing studio but I was a little cautious so I went to have a chat with Paul anyway. This is the best advice I can give anyone when trying to find a good studio, if they will give advice with no hint of a sale, or will change hard to reach piercings even if you don't buy the jewelry from them, you've got one. Paul has been a pro for a long time and I thought if he hadn't performed one, maybe he knew someone who had... We discussed it for a bit and he explained associated problems and pluses of the many genital piercings and the reasons my chosen one had a bit of a reputation. This mainly from gun-ho people doing things without proper thought. Then he told me that he would call me in a couple of weeks after he had done some research and talked to fue people about placement and technique. HE would do it, I was made up, I trusted him and I knew he wouldn't perform it unless he was confident, it was also cool to be a first with a guy of his experience (over 16000 people)...
When the day came my girl and me were both bricking it, she went first (if she had too much time to think about it she would have bailed.), she gripped my hand, took the hit and said it was the most painful thing ever, not the ultimate confidence boost I needed... Then came my turn, after being the support for the last 15 mins I had no option but to have it done. We discussed placement and clamping, marked it out then tried the clamp. He found he had more control without the clamp and I had no problems. All ready to go but when I finally realized what was about to happen an icy chill rode over me and I just wanted to climb the walls away from the needle. Having my manhood in some guys hand when he's got a walking stick sized needle in his other hand is bad enough but paying for the privilege to! He began to push from below and the pain came. All of my other piercings have been milliseconds and you don't really have any time to think about what your feeling, but for this one time seemed to slow. I didn't turn away, just kinda settled into the experience. To say I enjoyed it would be a bit of a stretch but it felt good to push my boundaries a bit. I could feel the resistance and a pain that seemed to jar my legs and want to come out of my ears like a shiver down my spine but intensified a thousand times... It took about a second until he hit the urethra, then he had to drop his shoulder to push the rest of the way. There was much more resistance the second half and I think I even let out an involuntary sigh, time slowed again until I was just waiting and waiting. All I know is I have never been so glad at such a weird thing... A bit of metal pop out of the top of my cock, and with it that feeling of relief like a joint that has been wanting to click all day finally going. In all I think it took under three seconds...
Yes it hurt like a bitch but it was totally manageable, I kind of went to another part of my brain, could feel it all but it didn't matter... It bled a lot in the studio and did for about four days after, mostly at night when I would wake up with an erection doused in blood, but the aftercare was easy, just dropping it in a glass of salt water and cleaning lymph off it. It took four or five months till it was 100% healed but I could have sex within a couple of weeks gently at first but gaining confidence within a couple of months. The benefits far outweigh the cost in any case!!! The only problem I did have was with a loop of skin left from when I was circumcised as a kid, it would get caught during sex... I would not advise this to any one but as it was just flesh I tied the loop off for a couple of days then cut it off with some sharp scissors, since I have had no problems...
I think that is me done with piercings at least for now but I love all that I have done. How even if someone has all the same done as me it still would not be the same. We would of had different reasons to get them and different experiences... How my body is a reflection of my personality has become a major part of my identity, it has helped me like myself more and taught me to harness the fear in my life and never let it hold me back. And like all things to always look ahead, to the next mod, next anything..
The next thing for me is a tattoo, different kinda pain and just like the first time someone stuck a needle in my tongue, I'm terrified, but I'm pretty sure that I'll enjoy pushing myself the way I have with piercings and I hope that by putting myself through more trials of pain I will become happier still...
And feel more like me....