I first got my apadravya two years ago at Saint Sabrina's in Minneapolis, by Derek Lowe...who did a magnificent job, by the way :) Very good placement and such, and I really like his attitude and trust his experience and technique. And well..there are very few I would trust to give an apadravya (though it seems like a lot of shady shops are offering this piercing now, wasn't aware it was so popular I guess....I hope that if you are on this site you know better). I have been a firm believer in the "pierce it bigger if you will end up stretching it, and don't do anything smaller than 10g" logic, and Derek agreed. Though apparently 10g is most common (I recently read about another reader who had his done at 14g...poor guy, probably would not have hurt him any more to just go ahead and get it done bigger, I would not trust the ethics of a piercer that did that), I knew I was likely to stretch it eventually, so we decided to do it at 8g. Actually what he did was literally pierce it at 10g and then immediatel y stretch it to an 8g.
At A Glance Author kslight Contact kslight@bme.anon When A month ago Yeah, it hurt a lot, but you knew that already, right? Apparently blood shot up as the needle completely penetrated the head. Too bad I didn't video tape it. While I was definitely in a lot of pain for the (admittedly not so long) procedure (much more time was spent determining appropriate placement), I was very relieved when it was over (duh).
For the next week or so I felt like I was on the rag, definitely want to be sure to wrap that thing up all nice and pretty if you plan on getting out of bed for the next week. I had to walk to class and work so it was not avoidable. Had to wear undies and wrap it up like a mummy to not feel a shock of pain (or pleasure) with every step. And it definitely helps to get used to the jewelry weighing you down when you get in bigger sizes. Once out of the mummy stage (week 2), I was simply wearing undies (uncommon for me), and trying to avoid running into things. At this stage it was pretty reasonably comfortable, just had to clean it out every day (this is one of those piercings where the LITFA technique works well...less cleaning is more for sure, more will simply irritate it and make it take longer to heal). Following the first month, I started having sex again. Definitely a bit different...for she and I. Comfortable for both of us, and definitely a bit more pleasing.
I find it *IMPORTANT* to note that if a condom is your only form of birth control, then an apadravya (or ampallang, or dydoes, or PA) is probably not a great idea. Now I have not tested this theory, but I am concerned that a condom would have a higher potential of breakage (if your condom size normally is just a regular, maybe try a magnum and see if that works for you...obviously try it on first and make sure it won't slip off) or slippage. To receive the sexual benefits of this piercing, I think having sex with a condom is kind of counter-productive (while certainly it will feel better, it definitely is not as good), and so I choose not to 99% of the time. You should do whatever works best for you given your situation, but wearing one of these piercings with a condom has the potential to give you that added risk of breakage. I just thought that you deserve to have this pointed out to you readers if you are not planning on starting (or expanding) a family.
I would also like to point out that if you intend to engage in anal sex, an apadravya may also not be a great idea, and potentially may be very uncomfortable for your partner. While this risk may exist for vaginal sex, as vaginas are designed with the ability to conform, given a slow start and a little lube, you should have few or no problems with vaginal sex. There are certainly other great reasons to have an apadravya (aesthetics, for one!), if anal sex is important to your lifestyle, I would highly recommend you do some research first, as far as appropriate size and also smaller or 1/2 beads to improve your results.
Now that that's over with...flash forward 7-8 months or so. Everything is great and healed and such (actually was probably healed a couple months before that), and I went to a concert...never thought to check the tightness of my beads, and about halfway through the show I noticed one of the beads had dropped out, and soon followed the 1 1/2" bar with the other bead still attached. Hmm...that's not good. Well luckily Saint Sabrina's was still opened at the the end of the show, and I had Skot reinsert the jewelry. It hadn't really started to close up yet, as only 45 mins to an hour and passed. No big deal, I just wasn't comfortable with doing if myself, nor was I sure of the cleanliness of the venue's floor (back to commando again).
Yeah...watch out for that. So he reinserted it and I was on my merry way.
A few months later I decided I wanted to stretch it to 6g. Had to have jewelry ordered and such, and proceeded to have Skot (again!) do the stretch for me (never done any serious stretches, just stretched a frenum myself, I don't have any other big piercings). Ouch. Hurt a bit, you know? Well felt like I expected it to anyway. Damn though, I thought going to a 6g was a big improvement aesthetically over 8g. Well did the usual aftercare and such, but then I decided to be an idiot and try to have sex after like maybe 2 weeks? Yeah...that was really uncomfortable. Note to self: don't be an idiot. BE PATIENT. So then waited a few more weeks, and everything was fine and dandy. AHh......not really a big difference on my side of the fence with the stretching, but the lady noticed and liked.
And now a couple weeks ago today (1.5 years following the 6g stretch) I have it stretched to 4g. I once again ordered the jewelry through Saint Sabrina's (I guess it must not be that common yet to have an apadravya, or anything else that would require that long of jewelry in that gauge) but this time ordered a threaded taper (highly recommend it!) along with it, so I could do it myself. Good jewelry is not exactly cheap in this size, so be prepared for it. A couple weeks later it arrived in the mail (I no longer live in Minneapolis, but the folks at Sabrina's have treated me so well I thought I'd rather give them the money than some shady online dealer or local shop). The next day I decided I was going to do it... Well to make a long story short...3 hours later, I had a 4g apadravya. Yeah, it was a painful experience, but I suppose if you are a DIY-er, you like it, right? Well I guess I felt better about doing it myself than making Skot or someone hold my dick for that amount of time (well with the 6g stretch it took about a half hour, and I felt bad enough about that) but I would not have minded having someone do it that wasn't also on the receiving end of the pain and able to tease me a bit harder. I don't regret it though. I mean it was definitely hurting a bit afterwards (though not as much as you'd think...) but once wrapped up and in undies, I was comfortable. Here I am now...2 weeks later, still healing it up and stuff, but its going well, I don't have to wrap it up anymore after last week, but I'm still wearing undies and avoiding sex. Maybe after a couple more weeks. I have been seriously considering maybe getting half beads, if I can find them in this size. But I'm short cash at the moment so unless its necessary I probably won't do it.
I think I'll keep it at 4g though...I mean it would be cool to see how big I could make it, but...ehh...4g is enough for my purposes I think, I can't think of any way it could look any better to me. I imagine that if you stretched large enough (I haven't heard about anyone doing it like this, but maybe?) you could split your penis with relative ease similar to how folks stretch and stretch until they split their tongue. It'd be worth a shot, to someone whose into that, I guess. Not for me though.
I might also point out that after you've had your apadravya for awhile, you can safely remove your jewelry (if stretched large enough) for sex if your partner finds it uncomfortable (or if you can't remember what regular sex feels like) and then reinsert it again after cleaning up without too much discomfort (it feels a little funny when it goes through halfway...urethral stim). Just for laughs I decided to urinate with the jewelry out (after sex) and what I witnessed was similar to that of a whale...maybe a sperm whale, if you please. Hehe..blowhole. It went out of all three holes...very odd, but well, amusing. Great drunk guy trick...or not. It does leave me wondering...did I come out all three holes too?
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