Four years ago I submitted my experience about my Apadravya entitled "A husband and wife experience" (November 2001). Please read the original before you continue reading this one. The original focused on the procedure and the 3 months following the piercing. After a long hiatus from this web site and a few piercings later I thought it might be fun and helpful for others to know about my wife and I's experiences from the last 4 years. Most of the experiences posted, as it relates to genital piercings, are typically after the individual has had it for a few months or less. I will try, to the best of my ability, to show recent piercees that you can enjoy a piercing for a long time to come with care and patience, plus give some tips from my own experiences along the way.
At A Glance Author bfusco Contact bfusco@bme.anon When Five years ago Artist Rob Studio Mystical Body Location Modesto, CA So four years has gone by since I first put a piece of metal through my penis. Regret? No. Initially, I was nervous like everyone else about actually going through with it. However, I now dread the thought of loosing it. It has become a part of me. If I take it out for one reason or another it just doesn't look right. If, I for some reason lost the piercing, would I die? No, but I would be extremely disappointed and it would be an excuse to do it all over again.
Now, if I had to do it all over again would I have changed anything? Yes. I would have started at a larger gauge, and since Mystical Body won't pierce above a 10 gauge I would have started at 10 gauge. My initial piecing was a 12 gauge. It seemed huge initially. However after healing and "using" it for a while it was uncomfortable for both my wife & I. My wife stated, "It felt like someone was scratching her insides." To me, it felt like a wire however my sensitivity was incredibly enhanced. About 5 months after the initial piercing it was time to start stretching. I should have waited another 2 or 3 months but I was anxious to get things going and make it as comfortable for my wife and me as quickly as possible.
About every 2-6 months, I would be back at Mystical Body purchasing more jewelry and tapers. Jason at Mystical Body wanted to do the stretches but I insisted on doing them myself. The stretches were always far worse than the actual piercing. It would take me sometimes up to 30 minutes to complete the stretch because of the intensity of the pain. I managed to go from a 12 gauge to a 2 gauge over the next 2.5 years. This was a total of 5 stretches and lots of discomfort not to mention the money I spent on jewelry and tapers.
Typically after a stretch I would be sore for about a week. This included some very painful urination times. See, the larger the gauge got the more I blocked my urethra. This caused some back pressure at the bladder sphincter and thus some discomfort. It would usually resolve in 7-10 days. The worst of this happened when I went from 4 to 2 gauge. I have stopped at 2 gauge because of this discomfort. I fear that 0 gauge would be darn near unbearable for the next 7-10 days. Not to mention I think that the ball size for a 0 gauge might be to big and uncomfortable for my wife. I have experimented with ball sizes and had some balls made for my 4 gauge that were the equivalent to 0 gauge. My wife hated them. When I went to 2 gauge I went with standard ball sizes and she likes them much better. Small differences can make the difference between pleasure and pain when it comes to the female anatomy.
I have decided that of all the gauges that I have used that the 2 gauge is by far the most comfortable for me. It is also, from my wife's opinion, the one she is most comfortable with. For the most part her opinion is, "If you have it, great, but if you didn't have it, I'd be fine too." It tends to be uncomfortable for her in the doggie position, and generally we take it out when in this position. However all other positions seem to be just fine. I will say this, when it is out I don't feel nearly the sensation as I do with it in. I also don't feel like I'm pleasuring her as well, either. It takes longer with out it for my wife to have her orgasm.
Initially after the piercing the sensation was incredible. There was a definite increase in awareness and increase in orgasm sensation. As healing went along the new found hightened sensations decreased. The decrease was significant. The nerves were getting used to the new sensation and eventually desensitized to the piercing. However this is not to say that all of the new found sensations were lost. I still have more sensation than I did without it. Still, it was worth every penny spent, and the pain that was endured.
Apadravya's can pose a problem with oral copulation. My wife doesn't like the metal in her mouth, and thus it has to come out during oral sex. This is actually fine with me since I think oral sex actually feels better with out it anyway. While we are on the topic of oral sex, I've got to tell anyone interested in Apadravya's, that due to the barbell style of jewelry, "things" grow on the threads, especially internally threaded, and can cause extremely unpleasant odors. If your partner catches any kind of odor or taste it is a very quick turn-off, thus you MUST take it out and clean it on a daily basis. I also found a little Neosporin placed on the threads would help keep the "things" to a dull roar and keep the odor away for about a week, helpful, especially if you're lazy or forgetful.
Peeing has become an art. Getting 3 streams to go into a toilet is fun when they don't all go the same direction. As the piercing loosens up, you will undoubtedly get dripping or eventually a 2nd or 3rd stream when urinating. This poses a problem if you don't want to pee all over the floor and yourself. Believe me, this has happened to me more times than I care to count. Thus I have learned while at home, pee like a woman, sit. Urinals are good. While in public, I refuse to sit to pee. No urinal, then your going to increase the chance your going to pee on the floor, or do some creative contortioning to get all 3 streams to go where they are supposed to be. Stretching alleviates this problem only temporarily. Give it 3 days and your back to the dribbles and then multiple streams.
In the original experience I wrote that we got pierced together, her Hood and my Apadravya. Her hood was pierced with a 14 gauge CBR. Up until I got to the 4 gauge, we risked getting "caught" on one another. In fact I can remember several times we got "hooked." Be very careful if your partner has CBR's anywhere in the genital region and your ball is small enough to fit inside of the hoop. It HURTS!!!! Also go easy on the girl on top, catch it the wrong way and you're just looking to tear your Apadravy out. We've had our share of close calls.
I hope I have given you a glimpse into life with an Apadravya. I wouldn't go back to metalless by choice. There are times you have to be cautious about how you use it so you don't injure yourself. It has been an extremely pleasurable 4 years overall and I love my piercing. I would do it all over again, except I would start bigger.