It all started for me about 4 years ago...
At A Glance Author Bobert Contact Bobert@bme.anon When Six months ago Artist Troy Studio Eye of the Lotus Location Edmonton, Alberta I had just started university and was using the chance of a new school with new people to change myself into someone I was more comfortable with. It was in my first year at the University that I started getting a little more into the Body Mod scene, and following up a recent tattoo I was looking into more piercings.
What started as just a tongue piercing became, with amazing speed, a lip, a labret, a nipple, a septum, a nape, and a few eyebrow. But all of these to me now seemed like only a sort of foreplay before my apadravya.
My friends, none of whom are pierced, would always joke with me as we would sit around saying things like "Oh just get your dick pierced already...You know you're going to do it..." After a while it became clear to me that I did actually want to get it done. As per usual BME was my first stop to read up on it. I poured over story after story, getting an idea for aftercare and aesthetic, but if I'm being honest with myself, I just wanted to know how much it hurt to have a metal rod put through the head of your dick.
The day finally came when my girlfriend (now ex) was ready to get her lip pierced as well, so we went together to my favourite shop, Eye of the Lotus, to see Troy about getting some work done. (On a side note, I would highly recommend this shop to anyone in terms of quality, cleanliness, and atmosphere).
After finally getting the courage up to go in, I squared myself away with the desk, strode up with what must have been the biggest shit eating grin ever and said, "Im here to get an Apadravya."
"Troy's not here.."
EXHALE
"He's on vacation for another two weeks..."
I walked out, sort of releived but also sort of let down that I had finally found the balls to go, and wasn't able to get in.
Fast forward two weeks, and many nights of me reading stories and deciding that Yes, I was going to get it. Yes, it would hurt, but at least after that I would know. So after my girlfriend, who opted to get her lip pierced ahead of me because she was worried SHE would scream, was done, it was my turn. So there I was, in the room, shuffling around and making nervous small talk kind of uncomfortably in front of a guy I had known for a while now and who was telling me to drop trow.
I sat on the edge of the counter thinking all of a sudden how vulnerable my penis felt. My eyes darted back and forth between my dick, a stainless steel 8 guage needle, and the door. I had obviously done the "squeeze test" earlier and was looking forward, in no small way, to the piercing being done.
Troy lined up the needle with the marks he had made, telling me all the while that he had done his own P.A. and that there was no "Surprise, I did it on Two instead of Three" when you do it yourself. I leaned back comfortable with the knowledge that I now knew someone who had lived through it, and that somehow, all those people on BME had come before.
After some deep breaths, Troy asked, "Do you want me to tell you when?" and all I could muster was "Uhhh...." before he went to work. The pain.......It was intense. Never in my life have I felt anything like it. Troy stopped half way saying "Your doing good, keep breathing". "Is it done?" I croaked, looking over and seeing my girlfriend as pale as a bleached sheet clutching her hand to her mouth. "No......but I've got good news", he said, "We're halfway."
Knowing what was coming this time, I figured I'd be a little more graceful in handling the pain, but I gave a big grunt anyways and swore though clenched teeth. Now the needle is though and Im looking at myself in a whole new way. "You did it" I say to myself. Now its ten minutes since the piercing and I'm jokingly practicing the "weiner wakeup" in the mirror until a sudden sharp pain reminds me to grow up.
Aftercare was not as big a problem as I thought it would be. I cleaned it whenever I showered and wore a condom with gauze for the first few days to stop any leakage. At the risk of sounding like a tampax commercial, I had heavier days and lighter days, but it stopped around day 4. I cant say I felt the discomfort during peeing that I've read so much about. I peed about half an hour after it was done and felt fine, and even began to look forward to getting the clots out, just because I knew it meant healing. Morning erections were, I admit, originally painful enough to wake me up, but that went away within a week or so.
What else can I say about it? My apadravya has totally changed the way I experience sex. My "little metal bump" makes it a little more satisfying to stay shallow, and as for my girlfriend, who had originally had doubts, the deeper penetrations had the barbell rubbing on her G-spot, which is defintley a good thing.
For those of you thinking about getting it, I would say to realize its going to hurt and then go for it. Out of all my piercings, it is one I would definitley say that I earned. I get a small measure of accomplishment even now when I think of it, smugly saying to myself, "Yup. Now you know how much it hurts".