I'd wanted a genital piercing for a while, and knew that I'd get one eventually. I just needed to settle on which one. I looked at pictures, read what other people had said about various ones, and finally settled on the apadravya. I talked to my piercer, Six, about it on and off for maybe three months, asking about the jewellery used, how it affected lifestyle, healing time, all of the usual things you need to know before getting a 'major' piercing. I'll admit I was timid about getting it done, hell, I was timid about even ASKING about it.
At A Glance Author tmjb Contact tmjb@bme.anon When A month ago Artist Six Studio Exotix Location Toronto So I made an appointment. Six said he would get the jewellery in probably a day or two in advance. Great.
The day came, I had two friends who were going to join me at the shop, one(she) for the procedure, the other(he) would come by after. I smoked a joint before leaving my house, and couldn't stop thinking about how I was going to go and have a needle and then a bar put through the end of my dick. It was a little worrisome, I was starting to get freaked. I got to the shop, and didn't go in. I was early, I needed ten minutes to chill out. I had a coffee, took what I thought was my last unpierced pee, and walked around the block a few times.
I finally decided that the was no reason to fret, and just went into the shop. I was the only customer in there, Six looked up at me and said 'I don't have the jewellery, I tried to call you at work, but you weren't there. Sorry man.'
hmmmmm, this probably isn't so bad after all....
He told me that the jewellery would be in around six or seven, did I want to wait? It was 2pm, I figured going back home and chilling out would be a good idea, because I had gotten myself really freaked out (my walking, peeing, and coffeeing hadn't helped). I said I'd wait for my friends, and then I'd break the news, and come back. She showed first, got the news, and was disappointed, she'd wanted to hear me scream. She talked to one of the tattoo artists about getting some work done(and it's been done, looks fabulous), and then he showed up, I gave him the news, and then we took off shortly thereafter.
Later on, having sobered up, had a shower, feeling good about the whole thing, I went back to the shop, maybe 7:30, all by my lonesome. I arrived, the shop was full (it's a small place, so maybe 5-6 people), I found a seat, and got involved in some talk with the people who were there. They were friends of Six', they had heard about me & the piercing, so we talked about that, other work, things in general. Six asked if he could do a belly button before me, I was fine with that, after we all went out for a smoke, joking about hearing me scream (is it that bad? I thought), and then the crowd departed. I felt completely relaxed about the whole thing, Six and I went back into the shop, we were the only ones except for one of the tattoo artists doing some drawings in his 'room'. I went for what really was my last unpierced pee, and then we were ready to go.
Yeah, I was still nervous. We went into the room, Six closed the curtain, boy that bar looked big. So did the needle. BIG! Suddenly there seemed to be a lot more room in my boxers. Damn, the first time he sees my dick, it'll be tiny tiny tiny. Oh well.
I asked if afterwards I'd be able to go out for a b-day gathering. He said probably not, it's an experience that usually really takes it out of guys. I can understand. I figured I'd still be able to at least go for a bit, maybe(if not, at least I had an excuse to bail).
I dropped my pants and undies, sat on the edge of the table, Six made his marks, I was satisfied with them. He clamped me, got the tray beside him ready, and as he picked up the needle, said to me 'If you need to grab onto something, make sure it isn't me.' That seemed like solid advice. I took my deep breath, felt a little scratching, thought this doesn't seem too bad, was exhaling, and then it was the most incredible pain ever.
I kept breathing, tried to hold perfectly still, and felt an orgasm of pain exploding in my glans. It was at least as painful as I was expecting. Half way through I had nothing but second thoughts, but that was too late. I could only grin and bear it. I'm sure it didn't last too long, but yes, it lasted TOO LONG. I didn't scream though, just very very deep breaths.
Then it was over. That was good. There was no pain at all anymore, just some dizziness. I laid down, Six cleaned me up, gloved me up, said take your time. I said after that, there was no way I was going anywhere. I looked at how much blood stained the towels under me. Not too much, not much at all. I stayed in the shop for maybe ten more minutes, laying down as Six explained to me all the aftercare, what to do with my foreskin for the first few days, what to do about night time erections, morning glory, all that stuff. He likes to be thorough, which is much appreciated.
I stood up when everything was done, looked at my watch, and said 'Yeah, I'll be okay to go out tonight.' We laughed. I paid and was on my merry way to the Phoenix. I partied until they kicked us out, found out that yes, my piercing was going to bleed for a while (oh, and to the Phoenix staff, sorry about the blood on the floor, but I had to pee standing, and some dripped down the bar, but you really should keep your bathrooms cleaner), and went home at 4am, did a soak, went to bed.
Went to work the next day, which was okay, no pain or anything, not unless I really swung my dick around (no jumping!). I kept bleeding for maybe a day, kept soaking until even today (ten minutes with your dick sitting in hot/warm water twice a day is really relaxing, I recommend doing it even without a piercing. It just feels nice). To keep my foreskin off the piercing, I taped it back. A word of caution if you're going to do this, take the tape off regularly, as this allows body fluids which normally flow around to drain from the foreskin. To tape the skin back for too long can cause paraphimosis, which if you google, will freak you out, but when I taped I only experienced a little little bit of paraphimosis, and that resolved when the tape was off and I soaked more frequently. Otherwise, there were no complications in healing.
I jerked off after about a week and a half, and that was the payoff. Holy hell, best orgasm ever. They've all been great orgasms since getting it done, by myself or with others.
Worth the pain and the wait, for sure. Not just because it feels better to come, but because I feel better having the apadravya there.
It makes me feel more complete.