PA to Apadravya

At A Glance Author anonymous Studio Venus body arts Location New York, NY

A few months ago, I went to Venus to get my apadravya. I had already given myself a PA a few years back, but for this much more extended and painful procedure (it was painful!) I felt it would be better to have a professional do it. I had heard that Venus was a good studio, and it definitely had a quiet, laid-back quality to it that seems to be lacking in some of the more frenetic piercing shops in New York. So I went and got pierced there.

I had a woman pierce me, and her female assistant came to watch. It was a little embarassing, maybe, but on the other hand, I think I was too nervous about the piercing itself to care. And it helps to train another generation of piercers, so that's good.

She explained that because I already had a PA whole, she would pierce just the top, a reverse pa piercing technically, and would also use a technique she felt minimized bleeding, which was to pierce with a gauge smaller than the jewlery. I already had a 6 gauge whole, so she pierced 8 gauge and then inserted 6 gauge.

The experience was very, very painful. First of all, she seemed rushed. She had just hung up the phone with some guy she was arguing with for some reason, and had an upset, angry look on her face which she seemed to be masking with a distanced, curt attitude that really felt offputting and disturbing, given the deep physical and emotional experience I was about to be going through. I felt just a little disrespected, and a bit too much like a "customer"... I mean, I went to a "professional" for the skill she could lend in the procedure, but I think the professional piercer has to be aware of the experience he or she is putting the client through, and should maintain a state of awareness that allows this connection to be maintained. Perhaps this means keeping shorter hours or fewer clients, and charging more per piercing for the service, but I think there are many people who would appreciate something like that.

Anyway, back to the piercing. No sooner had she said "breath in and then out" then she had already started to pierce, while i was still on my in breath. The searing pain forced out my breath, and then in order to releaes the tension from the pain (it seemed to continue without stop as the needle proceeded on its course) I continued to let out every last bit of breath. Finally, it was over, and only a dull throb made me aware that there was a big needle down there. Then she got the jewelry, and I don't know which was more painful, but certainly, I was endorphined up by this point. Pushing that bar through was something else, though. I meditated and just let the pain flow through without resistance.

Still, days later I still had these "pain attacks" where I would be walking down a street, barely feeling the new piercing, but being overcome by the memory of the pain, which seemed as searing as the real thing in my mind, though I could let go of the thought more easily than the real thing, of course. On the other hand, this experience certainly had a lasting, transformative effect on me. Aside from my openess to pain, I think it helped to knock out a certain fear I might have had for painful situations. After this, I know I can endure. It also makes me wonder what my next genital piercing should be now.

The rest of it proceeded well. Including the healing. I used antibacterial soap, lots of vitamin C (8 grams/day) and Zinc (over 150mg the first week, then 50mg a day there after). Plus a multivitamin. I recommend all of this to help tissue repair, etc.

It has been about 4 months now, and there is still a daily deposit of detritus and protein on the bar, but it seems to rinse off more quickly than it did before (perhaps just because it is thinner now). I also recommend a shower filter. I believe that by removing the chlorine (and other chemicals from the water) it boosts the ability of the skin to repair itself (after all, the chlorine is added to attack the vulnerable bacterial cell walls, and recently dividing epithelial tissue cells are not much stronger. Get a better one than in the stores (check out the web vendors). I do have some qualms also about the ingredients in antibacterial soap. If some more natural glycerin soap with triclosan could be developed, I think it would really be a great help in healing piercings. The detergent based dial soap is drying on the skin, and also harms and perhaps delays the healing of the piercing more than piercers may realize.

In terms of the sexual aspects of this piercing, I and my girlfriend find it really does stimulate better than an unpierced penis. The only problem is oral sex (it gets in the way!).