my apadravya

At A Glance Author anonymous Artist forget her name Studio Venus Location NYC

About a couple of years ago now, after another couple of years of thinking about it, I self pierced a PA. It worked out fine, though I didn't do it in the normal fashion (I couldn't without a hollow needle). But I managed to produce a reasonably well placed pa by myself. At the time, I felt it was important to me that I do it myself. It meant a certain reclamation over a circumsiced penis, perhaps. There are plenty of sites I could recommend that discuss this issue, so I direct the reader interested in this matter to look them up.

Over the next couple of years, I stretched my PA down to a 6 gauge 5/8 inch. It was pretty easy, just slip a new one in every few months. I didn't experience any of the "stretching" episodes I've sometimes read about which sound kind of painful.

The bigger the rings got, though, the more I contemplated my real goal, an apadravya. Why fixate on the apadravya? First, there is the pleasure factor, as my girlfriend has agreed since I got it. Then there is also a long and fascinating tribal history of the apadravya. It is also a means of really marking a change in my sense of my own body. It meant "inscribing" it with my own mark, over those marks which have been placed on it by time and other people. The experience itself produced this effect. The pain (I'll get to that in a moment) was intense, and it seemed to wash away a certain fear I had to do with myself as I wish.

I went to Venus Body arts in NYC, on the recommendation of a friend who had told me years ago they were really good. I had prepared myself that day for the piercing, but the nervousness persisted, so I meditated as I waited for the room to be prepared.

My piercer was a woman, and her assistant (also a woman) seemed to be her apprentice. This was fine, I was not embarrassed, but I think it would have been fair to ask me first if it would be allright. But this is a business to them, I realized, especially in the matter-of-fact way the piercer spoke with me. She seemed as uncomfortable as I was, and so she tried to create a wall of professionalism, when what I sought was just skill.

The procedure proceeded, and she explained everything she was doing carefully, which I was happy to hear. At a certain point, she said, "take a breath," and as I tried to breath in, she had already started to pierce me. I slowly breathed out what I had, and kept emptying my lungs in protest against the fire that pounded and radiated from that painfully concentrated point of my awareness, the end of my penis.

Every layer of skin the needle went through produced a different feeling of pain, and when it was done, I was glad she had been able to use my existing PA hole, and had really only done a reverse pa piercing. The gauge of the needle was an 8, so it was pretty intense for me, still.

After I recuperated, I got up, and left the shop with my girlfriend. I was pretty tired the rest of the day. After that, the piercing started to hurt. It was a deep hurt, not like a scratch but something far more enduring. I was careful to clean it twice a day with dial antibacterial. I also experimented with sea salts, and this really helped a lot, and cannot recommend it too much. However, let me add that it is a real odyssey trying to find non-iodized sea salt. The good health officials seem to have seen to it that there is almost no non-iodized salt on the market today. If you are in NYC, I recommend the supermarket on 14 th street off union square, because you might not find it anywhere else, save balducci's or zabaar's or something upscale.

The pain of the piercing receded over the next couple of months until it was only a mild discomfort, and now nothing at all (about 4 months now). After all this, the apadravya healed fine, though I am technically still a couple of months from "fully" being healed. I take enough vitamins to explain why it healed so fast (I can't recommend this enough: 5gms C, 800 iu E, and Zinc Gluconate, and a multivitamin).

It was incredibly painful to have sex at first, but that passed, and I enjoy it now. My girlfriend says it really changes the feeling, in a way she likes very much. The only problem I would warn against is oral sex , which gets a little difficult.