Stretching my lobes was a big part of my life for about 4 years. I started stretching slowly at the age of sixteen and I am currently twenty one. My lobes are at 5/8" of an inch and I love them very much. I discovered lobe stretching when I was fourteen years old. My first love was in the process of stretching his lobes while we were dating freshman year of high school. It is one of the things that attracted me to him in the beginning and I was fascinated with it from then on. Of course I did not know much about it at fourteen and because my boyfriend was young and stupid him and his friends would do things like stretch with sharpened pencils and things of that nature. After seeing what looked like painful displays of lobe stretching at that age I was not necessarily eager to dive into stretching, but I was still utterly engaged by it.
At A Glance Author Br00tal Baby Contact Br00tal Baby@bme.anon When N/A At the age of sixteen I met my current best friend, who had her lobes stretched to about a 0 gauge, and she introduced me to BME. I didn't even have my ears pierced at the time, but after hearing my best friend talk about stretching , who was a little more knowledgeable at the time then my freshman boyfriend had been, and looking at the pictures of lobes on BME I realized that I wanted to make this change to my body. I thought that the girls I saw with stretched lobes looked beautiful and strong...and that is what I wanted to look like...that is what I wanted to feel I looked like. So I decided to take the first step and get my ears pierced. Unfortunately I knew my parents would never approve of me stretching my lobes, and I couldn't get across to them why I thought it was important to go to a piercing shop and have them done without revealing my real reason for wanting them done, so being desperate, I went to Claire's and had them pierced with a gun.
Myself and my best friend prematurely tried to push a fourteen gauge CBR through my holes, but we did not succeed, so we went to a piercing shop that we knew would taper underage kids and I was hooked from there. I told myself when I first started stretching I would stop at 00 gauge. My ears stretched relatively easily up to double zero, but I didn't rush, because I loved the process. I loved pushing my bodies limits and I felt so accomplished when I went up a size and I got to wear whatever new jewelry I had bought for that size.
I think I reached 00 gauge around the age of eighteen and I was pretty pleased with myself. I had reached my goal and I was happy about it, I thought my ears looked good and to me when I reach the next size up I feel like my lobes look fairly big, but after awhile I got used to them being 00 gauge. Around this time I got a job at a piercing shop and soon after I realized I could get free jewelry and my lobes tapered for free I began to consider taking my lobes to 7/16". This was a big decision for me in a way. Because I had set a goal for 00 gauge and now I was there and I became dissatisfied with it...would I be happy at 7/16" or would I just keep wanting to go bigger and bigger. I decided that 7/16" wasn't a huge jump from 00, they stretched fairly easily. It wasn't long after that I made my goal 5/8". I reached that goal at about the age of twenty. I am currently twenty one.
I have not stretched in about a year now and I miss it. Unfortunately my situation is not the same as it was when I was eighteen and over the past three years I have not had the luck of working in an establishment that does not frown upon larger lobes. Currently I am unemployed. This is my own fault, but I am still not happy about it and trying diligently to get another job. I have had a hard time, because I am twenty one with no professional references and being modified does not help in most situations. But during the time I have been unemployed I have been debating about making some more noticeable modifications to my body.
I just got my septum pierced and I feel empowered by it. Between that and reading some BME experiences, I think I have made the decision to stretch my lobes bigger. Stretching my lobes makes me happy, it makes me feel strong, and it makes me feel good about my appearance. I have been inspired to disregard what society rejects and do what makes me happy. I feel I owe BME and all the people that make it up a lot of gratitude. If it hadn't been for BME in the first place I don't think I would not have found out about lobe stretching when I did. Up until now I thought that I was done with body mod, I thought it was a phase that maybe I had "grown out" of, even though in the back of my mind I knew this was not true. But my job was repressing me so much and now between not having that job and using a chunk of my spare time reading some of the experiences posted here I feel that somewhat rebellious feeling rising up in me. I am not going to repress what I am in order to gain approval from people who will probably never understand or except me anyway. I am going to go and succeed in the world just like anyone else, but I am going to do it being exactly who I am, and looking the exact way that reveals my personality, and I hope that spirit in me is not squashed by society again like it has been for the last two years.